Kink Discourse - Blog Posts

I can't take the whole discourse around people going "forcefem is better than forcemasc because it's subversive! People who like forced masculinization are just STEALING from forcefem!" seriously because of these 4 points:

1. Forcefem started with cis men who enjoy being feminized as a form of humiliation, and they make up the majority of practitioners today. Yes, it's also really important to the transfem kink community and it brings many people gender euphoria, so that's great! But... you really can't steal a kink. There's no kink plagiarism. You're not getting kicked out of Kink University for enjoying similar themes.

2. It's not your business what other trans adults do in the bedroom/kink spaces. What causes dysphoria for you might make someone else euphoric. Don't yuck my yum or whatever. Just block the tag if you don't like it, we're all grownups here. I have both tags blocked bc they make me dysphoric, but you don't see me throwing a tantrum about it.

3. Imagine doing this with any other kink.

"Spanking is better than waxplay because it's subversive! You candle-lovers are doing painplay all wrong!"

"Bondage with handcuffs is way better than bondage with ropes, because when you use handcuffs you're RECLAIMING that from cops! Rope bunnies are just coping because their kink doesn't mean anything!"

4. The people who spend all their time arguing online about kink discourse probably aren't getting laid anyway.

So it's really not as pertinent to their lives as they think it is.

I don’t give a shit about kink discourse. Anyone who thinks too much about what other people jerk off too is weird. Especially people who try to turn it into a “my kink is more progressive and radical than your kink” shit. That’s like the queer discourse version of “my dad is stronger then your dad”

Not to be controversial (if even so) but I seriously cannot stand feeder/ana kinks I feel so uncomfortable seeing it on my feed. please if that’s your kink don’t feel attacked I am speaking to my experience!

I understand there needing to be safe spaces for people to express their kinks, but I also think it’s very important to understand the wider implications of certain kinks, especially to be able to practice kink safely.

Same with forced feminisation, detrans, raceplay etc. I really wish to understand how this can be practiced whilst not having it impact your everyday life and perceptions. Especially when irl such behaviour is classed as blatant discrimination.

I also understand that taboo will always exist and one cannot enforce/dictate what people are turned on by, but what is the line between kink shaming and genuine discourse?

What is the extent of moral rights and wrongs when it comes to kink and ‘play’? I’d be really interested to hear other peoples opinions as I am quite new to interacting with the kink community.

Idk I’d consider myself open minded but it’s also a thing where i’m being exposed to a lot of newer things and do not know how to approach it, especially when it conflicts with my personal views.