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WHY IS EVERYTHING SO SEXUALIZED I CAN'T EVEN EAT A BANANA ANYMORE

so what if i just consensually kiss a bunch of my friends to figure out if i'm aromantic?

aros, please let me know if this is a good idea

This is actually so accurate to my own lived experience. I was comfortable with the label “Asexual” or “Ace-Spec” before, but having this microlabel feels so warm and fuzzy 🥰

finding a term that you’ve never heard before but it resonating with you so deeply is a really cool experience

and that is why research on queer identities, whether gender, sexuality, or romance, is so needed!

from Ace Voices by Eris Young

I created a new oc!! I like Smokey 🖤

I feel this in my soul 😂

happy ace day! here's an ace smut writer struggle from my twt

like yall get horny writing smut?? genuinely cant fathom that. when im writing smut i feel like this

Am I Human?

Am I human?

I ask myself this question,

thoughts rushing around my head

What's wrong with me?

Why am I like this?

Why is my heart empty?

Why does my own community hate me?

Why do they exclude me?

I feel as if I am not human,

given that everyone else is focused on romance and sex

I wish I knew why,

what it feels to love someone like that

Maybe then I would feel human

Why am I pushed aside?

Ain't I as Queer as everyone else?

Am I even human to you?

I do not purely feel contempt inside,

Why do you think that?

I just wish I was like all of you,

maybe then I would be seen

Maybe then,

just maybe,

I'd feel human once again

But why do I have to change,

for you to include me

Ain't I human as well?

Ain't I as Queer as everyone else?

Slooooowly moves Mystic Flour onto the aspec (ramble below)

Maybe she struggled with why she felt little attraction when she was uncorrupted, but ignored it in favor of her work, and then when she was spiraling it sort of added to the stress. (“Why do I care? I can’t even feel right.”)

Then later on she brings it up talking to Strawberry or someone and she’s just like “Oh you’re asexual :)”

I present to you something even better - Dark Cacao AND Mystic Flour being on the ace spectrum and sort of bonding over it.

Also this is now absolutely canon to the AU, THANK YOU

(Dark cacao’s whole colour pallet is just the asexual flag, all the signs are there)

Please stop recommending Foxhole Court as asexual representation

Hello! In honor of asexual awareness day I'm going to write about why you shouldn't recommend Foxhole Court based off of it being asexual rep.

disclaimers:

I am Asexual

I head canon Neil as asexual

I'm dyslexic so I apologize if there are spelling errors or if something is unclear

I am making this post because in the past I have seen book lists that are recommending asexual books that have included Foxhole Court. I am not trying to attack anyone in specific but it is a fucked up thing to do.

First Neil is not asexual in canon. Yes there are elements of his character that could be read as asexual and I too read him as on the ace spectrum. However there is a big difference between actual representation and a head canon.

No where in canon does Neil allude to being asexual. What I mean by that is in his inner thoughts we never get any indication he is uncomfortable with the idea of having sex with someone. No where does he consider himself outside of normal for his sexuality. His identity with being ace or gay does not come up often or at all because he has other things on his mind.

Now, there are some things that could be considered evidence towards Neil being asexual (which again I head canon him as asexual). But much of this is taken out of context.

The first thing people use to defend recommending AFTG as ace rep. is Neil saying that he "doesn't swing". The context for this quote is that Nicky is trying to flirt with Neil and making him uncomfortable so of course Neil is going to say something to make Nicky leave him alone. And what comes after this line is Neil flashing back to his childhood where Mary beats the shit out of him for kissing a girl.

While asexual people can have trauma, I think Neil is scared of relationships because his mother literally beat him for having relationships.

Again Neil can be headcanoned as asexual that is fine and something I do too. But to recommend these books based on a loose head canon is bad to do. It's hard to find actual ace representation in anything. Again is perfectly fine to relate to him as an ace person but that is not the same as a book that has a character who is actually ace.

What do I mean by "actually ace"? I mean a character who identifies under the label or says something along the lines of having no interest in sex. Now I know that people do not have to have a label to be ace or openly identify as ace. Also I am aware that some ace ppl have sex. What I am trying to get at here is that for a book to be recommended based on the fact that a character in it is ace, that character should identify as ace or make some strong statements that imply heavily the character is ace.

For example, Don't Let The Forest In by: CG Drews has a ace MC. Andrew (the MC) thinks that he can't be loved because he doesn't want to have sex and anyone who would want a relationship with him would want sex from him. He thinks about it often in the book and ends up somewhat identifying as ace when someone tells him what ace is.

That is actual ace rep. Andrew struggles with his identify and clearly is somewhere on the ace spec.

Now I realize that in Foxhole Court the plot does not really focus on any of the character's sexualities. However at no point does Neil think about not wanting to have sex or having any hesitations around sex. Now from an outside perceptive it's pretty clear that Neil has no interest in anyone but Andrew which may indicate that he's ace. But he was being hunted and tortured for most of the books series so who knows.

And my final point it is fucked to recommend these books to people of the queer community without any warning of how bad the harmful gay stereotypes are in it. For the first two books the only canon gay rep. is Nicky who is a predatory gay man. Nicky constancy is flirting with people and generally making people very uncomfortable. (not to mention the rape joke). Also on top of all of that he is only canon person of color in the main cast. so yikes

I am not saying that these harmful stereotypes mean you shouldn't read or love AFTG. Personally I have a lot of love for these books but you have to recognize the stuff that is harmful in them.

Anyway please don't recommend these books as ace rep. because they are simply not :)

I want to spam garlic bread in the ask box of every ace spec person on this app . I'm not kidding, this is my project, it's important, you can reblog, start chains under this post, do what you want, but if you're ace spec, write something in the comments or in the reblogs, so I will gift you some garlic bread. WRITE SOMETHING IN THE REBLOGS, ANYTHING, EVEN JUST "#garlic bread", otherwise I won't find you among all these notes

Let me know if you don't receive your garlic news in two days! I might miss some orders!

Btw I'm keeping a journal of my orders. I write your usernames, so I can remember the great people who supported this project

petition to give northern ireland back to the irish as part of the terms of our alliance

Felt like covering the map of Europe with dots-

Ignore the key, I made it because I was bored-

It's silly hours fellas, gotta have silly hours after murdering bots, right? ;}

OBLIGATORY REBLOG

🖤🩶🤍💜

💚💚🤍🩶🖤

🧡💛🤍🩵💙

I'M DOING AN EXPERIMENT

To prove something to a friend, please

REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES

LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES

I need people to understand the love I have for the manga series called “I want to be a wall” by Honami Shirono. The manga talks about the marriage between Yuriko (aroace woman) and Gakurouta(gay man) who try to adapt to societal norms and their families pressure and expectations through that marriage. In the end their goal is to find their own happy ever after. Not only do we learn about them as people but they also grow next to eachother as partners and friends, while learning how to be ‘married‘.

I cried multiple times throughout reading it all cuz of how they voice their feelings and how realistic some of these situations are. But also many happy tears. All in all I’m happy to have experienced their journey and that of the others whose story was shown <3

The need to share this came cuz I just got delivered the third part and finished reading it with too many feelings to really talk about it. I just felt really understood in Yuriko’s character and how she feels about love, marriage and relationships and think that in the end it talks very sensible on the queer themes in all of it.

Part of the story are queer relationships, discrimination and the feeling of otherness.

So happy pride month ppl and read “I want to be a wall” 🏳️‍🌈

what’s the point of the “aro and ace ppl aren’t oppressed!!” card to exclude us?

like first of all, aros and aces ARE oppressed in such an amatonormative world, but even if we weren’t, isn’t it the biggest goal of the lgbtq+ community to not be oppressed one day? we want a world where gay and lesbian people are no longer oppressed, which is a great thing, but when that happens, are we suddenly going to drop them from the community just because they “aren’t oppressed anymore”?

since when has oppression played a part in whether or not someone is queer?? trans women tend to get more shit than trans men even though both are severely oppressed, so are the former somehow more queer than the latter? last time i checked, the answer was, and still is, no...

if you aren’t allocishet, then you can consider yourself a member of the lgbtq+ community; not because of the oppression you face, but because you deviate from the allonormative, amatonormative, monormative, cisnormative, or heteronormative structures of society. period

Supporting bisexuals is ace culture

REBLOG IF YOUR BLOG IS A SAFE SPACE FOR AROMANTIC PEOPLE AND IF YOU THINK THEY ARE VALID

I want to see how many people actually are willing to say this and not just act like it

A lil compilation of ace pride artwork I’ve made over the past year! 💜

Music artists made the best melody and beat known to man only to make the whole song about sex.

"i want a boyfriend" "i want a girlfriend" well i want to stop being so fucking sleepy

Jon and Martin as a couple actually mean the world to me. As an ace person, I hardly ever get to see media that represents asexuality in a way that feels realistic to my experience. Romance is important to me, but it’s always tied in with sex as if they are inseparable. Most ace characters are aroace, and I have literally never come across an ace character in a romantic relationship until Jon and Martin. I think that’s part of the reason they’ve taken over my brain so much in a way no other ship I’ve come across has so intensely. On top of the fact that I love their characters and the TMA universe as a concept like they have lowkey changed my life.

happy ace week!!

Happy Ace Week to all aces. Wishing everyone all the love and happiness. Don't forget to drink water, eat your favorite cake, that you are enough and valid, no matter what people say. And if someone hurt you, ace community and Yelena Belova got your back 🖤💜🖤💜🖤

And to all aphobes out there: she will find you and you won't like that

Here are some Pride Planets!! There are 28 in total and I will link the posts of the other 20!

1. Demiromatic 2. Demisexual 3. Greysexual

4. Abrosexual 5. Polysexual 6. Omnisexual

7. Polyamorous 8. Gender non-comforming

Pm me for any flags I missed or any personal combination of flags!

be kind.

be kind.

Here are some Pride Planets!! There are 28 in total and I will link the posts of the other 18! 1. Genderqueer 2. Genderfluid 3. Agender 4.

be kind.

be kind.

Here are some Pride Planets!! There are 28 in total and I will link the posts of the other 18! 1. Pride 2. Lesbian 3. Gay man 4. Bisexual

Here are some Pride Planets!! There are 28 in total and I will link the posts of the other 18!

1. Pride 2. Lesbian 3. Gay man 4. Bisexual

5. Pansexual 6. Trans 7. Non binary 8. Asexual

9. Aromantic 10. Intersex

Pm me for any flags I missed or any personal combination of flags!

be kind.

be kind.

Here are some Pride Planets!! There are 28 in total and I will link the posts of the other 20! 1. Demiromatic 2. Demisexual 3. Greysexual

be kind.

be kind.

Here are some Pride Planets!! There are 28 in total and I will link the posts of the other 18! 1. Genderqueer 2. Genderfluid 3. Agender 4.

I GOT DROWNED

Guess what I saw:

SLEEP, ALONE

SLEEP.

ALONE.

SLEEP ALONE 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥‼️‼️

mf called me out with all three 💀💀

Sending love to the neurodivergent people who are forced to socialise at Christmas, even when overstimulated. To the enbies who aren't out of the closet yet and have to endure getting misgendered and referred to as their dead name. To the closeted aro/aces who have to endure the "so do you have a partner yet?" questions. Your struggles are all completely valid, and I'm sorry for anyone who has this problem every year. While you may not have a good relationship with your relatives, I hope your Christmas is at least enjoyable. Have a merry Christmas my loves ^^

Thought of this while taking a walk in park and listening to Conan Gray...

As more and more time passes, I feel more and more attached to the few representations in media we have. Being on a-spec is awesome in its own way, but I only wish if I could see more of it in media. Not because I wanna feel seen. But because I wanna see what future might look like for someone on a-spec who doesn't want any sort of partnership. I saw some posts earlier talking about how a "single" life is extremely hard to sustain in current economy and that's extremely true. I also remember my friend saying "you can always adopt kids! You need someone to look after you in old age!" And... she was somewhat right, in a way. I don't want kids, but... what exactly is my future going to be like? Who is going to be there for me in a world where romantic relationships are prioritized before anything else? Its just all very very... in dark. There is no movie or book to look at and say "hey! Thats the kind of life I want!" Because every single media shows a version of life that isn't for me. I talk to my friends about wanting to live as a "single queer cat lady" but... realistically, how sustainable and possible is that?

What if God was an agender aromantic asexual aplatonic entity

finding a term that you’ve never heard before but it resonating with you so deeply is a really cool experience

and that is why research on queer identities, whether gender, sexuality, or romance, is so needed!

from Ace Voices by Eris Young