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Trans rights activist Hande Kader was raped and burned to death in Turkey

In Turkey, the LGBTQ community is mourning the loss of transgender rights activist and sex worker Hande Kader. Kader’s body was found raped and brutally burned on Aug. 12 in Istanbul and now activists across the world are demanding justice for her death and the greater violence inflicted upon the the LGBTQ community. While homosexuality is not illegal in Turkey, discrimination and violence against the LGBTQ community is staggering. 

I’ve been asked many times what someone should look for when trying to find a good artist. The best way you can do this is to look at their portfolio, whether it’s in a book at their shop or online. If they don’t have good work in their portfolio, they’re probably not good artists.

The shop may be clean, the people there might be nice, and the design they draw up for you might be exactly what you want, but if your artist doesn’t stand up to the points listed above, then you’re going to get a bad tattoo.

It’s okay to walk into a shop, talk with an artist for a while, and decide you don’t want a tattoo from them. Even if the artist has a bad attitude about it or tries to convince you to just let them do it, remember this is going to be on your body for the rest of your life.

Far right extremists: This racist, violent shit I’m saying is just a joke!!! HAHAHAHAHA get over it!

People with a modicum of common sense:

Far right extremists: Seriously?! You’re such a fucking buzzkill, lighten up it’s just jokes, it doesn’t mean anything.

Far right extremists: pssst fellow Nazis and such, circle up. Ok guys, did you know you can effectively use jokes to spread our views?!? Generally, when using racial slurs, it should come across as half-joking—like a racist joke that everyone laughs at because it’s true…

thinkin bout him (leonard nimoy)

I'm in a groupchat with a bunch of queer people and someone made a joke about how dating someone who is in the closet is a terrible idea and everyone kind of laughed and agreed without discussing it more. Is that really a thing? I've been dating the same girl for almost a year and she's in the closet, and it hasn't really affected our relationship, but now I'm nervous

no it’s not a thing, and it’s a shitty joke to make, but people make it a lot. they usually mean it in the usual, “haha closeted people are ashamed of being lgbt/closeted people hate themselves/they’re scared to be seen in public on a date/you have to pretend to be just friends” way, which is infuriating. closeted gay/trans people aren’t necessarily self loathing or ashamed, and even if they are, those traits aren’t exclusive to closeted people, and considering that most of us have been closeted at some point or another, we should be able to fucking empathize with people who have to do that all the time.

we all know why closeted people are closeted. it’s because homophobia/transphobia is alive and real and has dire fucking consequences for a lot of us. no one, esp other lgbt people who know both the consequences of being out and the consequences of being closeted, should ostracize or belittle those who aren’t ready or able to come out. 

I got my son a book called ‘jack, not jackie’.

Its about this little boy whose sister is intent to label him as a girl. She eventually realizes that regardless of what she calls him he is still the same person as before.

I don’t know if my son might one day be my daughter. But i want him to know its always okay to wear his princess dresses.

for insecure angels

your partner still loves you even when they are away.

your friends still loves you even when they are away.

they will sill love you even if they have other friends.

they weill still love you even if you are not okay.

they will still love you even if they don’t reply immediately.

they will still love you even if you don’t reply them immediately.

they will still love you even if they can’t talk in a exact moment.

they will still love you even they are not around you 24/7.

they will still love you even if you don’t love some things about yourself.

“they are not replying!”

MAYBE

they fell asleep.

they are busy.

they don’t feel okay to talk right now.

they had to immediately leave for some reason.

they are studying.

they are working.

they are practicing a hobby.

they forgot to reply by distraction.

THEY STILL LOVE YOU.

“they are distant!”

MAYBE

they are going through a hard time.

they are hurt by something you said or did (don’t get paranoid because of it, try to talk to them).

they are very busy with work or studies.

they are planning something good for you.

THEY STILL LOVE YOU.

“i made a mistake and hurt them.” you can always apologize! everyone makes mistakes.

“they made a mistake and hurt me.” tell your feelings to them.

“they will leave me, i know it.” check if it’s not your paranoid thoughts acting out and tell your feelings to them, we can’t be 100% sure if someone will abandon us.

“they have someone better in their lives.” i personally don’t believe in “someone better”, because we all have good and bad aspects, but it doesn’t even matter if they have someone better, because they are with you because they like you and not because of someone else or whatever.

“i’m not enough.” YOU ARE ENOUGH FOR THEM. THEY LOVE YOU.

“i’m ugly.” YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL FOR THEM. THEY LOVE YOU.

- Everything I said relates to healthy relationships only. I don’t support abusive relationships and please take care of yourself and look for help if you are being abused.

mad love for every girl who likes girls who’s never kissed or dated a girl and feels like their identity is invalid for it. it isn’t. I love u.

“if history has taught us anything- young angry queer kids are a force to be reckoned with.”

— Laura Mills (via makingqueerhistory)

thinking about how much i love femme lesbians and being a femme4femme lesbian 💋💕💘💖💗💓💞💝🌷🌹🌸✨💄

why didnt you call the cops or cps?

how about this: when i was 9 and my stepdad beat me until i passed out and i told my friends at school, my teacher over heard and i was interviewed by cps. they also went to my house when i was at school. when i got home, my step father was waiting on the couch, and told me who visited him that day. he told me if i ever snitched again he would beat me to within an inch of my life.

how about this: my mother locked me out of the house when i was 14 and when i cried so loud the neighbors called the cops, the cop told me i should have been respectful of my mother who was trying to sleep.

how about this. the demon you know is less scary than the demon you don’t.

children in abused households are raised to fear the idea of being taken away. children in abusive households see that help makes things worse.

dont you ever blame an abuse victim for not going to the authorities.

This is glorious and even thought it doesn’t fit in the range of all the paranormal, I MUST share

It works like this: You tell Kitestring that you’re in a dangerous place or situation, and give it a time frame of when to check in on you. If you don’t reply back when it checks your status, it’ll alert your emergency contacts with a custom message you set up.

It doesn’t require you to touch anything (like bSafe) or shake your phone (like Nirbhaya) to send the distress signal. Kitestring is smarter, because it doesn’t need an action to alert people, it needs inaction.

MORE INFORMATION

when oscar wilde wrote “there are moments when one has to choose between living one’s own life, fully, entirely, completely-or dragging out some false, shallow, degrading existence that the world in its hypocrisy demands” i felt that

With Rainbow Butterfly Unicorn Kitty on one side and bulbous-headed Fart Ninjas on the other, the gender divide was impossible to avoid at the North American International Toy Fair in New York City back in February.

The light-up Barbie mermaids vying for space with Gatling-style foam-dart blasters in Manhattan’s Javits Center raised a question: Have toys really progressed since our grandparents’ days? And how do the toys we play with shape the people we grow up to be?

Sparkle Unicorns And Fart Ninjas: What Parents Can Do About Gendered Toys

Illustration: Ran Zheng for NPR

Do you know how many young girls identify with the word gay because this society treats “lesbian” as something bad and sexual and dirty and secret. Honestly fuck that , and dear twelve year old self : lesbian is not a bad word it’s a beautiful one

reblog if you:

- flinch away when someone touches you.

- panic when you accidentally break an object.

- get scared when someone walks behind you.

- feel your heart rate increase at every sudden noise.

- are easily panicked by slightly-louder-than-normal sounds.

- stare apprehensively at your bedroom doorway for hours at night.

- have trouble making eye contact with people.

- always feel either too mature or too immature for your age.

- simultaneously crave and be terrified of physical contact.

because i do all of these

“wow all these lesbians are so cute and nice and i can’t stop thinking about them! 🤔 …i guess i just think they’re neat!”

Please fund Rape-Axe, the not-so-new anti-rape device.

Rape-Axe was invented by Sonnet Ehlers/Bryant, a medical researcher from South Africa who has seen many victims of sexual assault throughout her career. 

The device is inserted into the vagina like tampon. It has “razor-sharp” teeth that, if an attacker were to enter in the vagina, the device would then attach itself to the attacker. The rapist would “be almost fully incapacitated by the pain caused by the embedded barbs”. Even if the penis would grow flaccid, the barbs would still be attached.   

The only way the barbs could be removed is by a clinician. Obviously at that point, the attacker would be identified as a predator and likely be arrested and convicted.  

Unfortunately since its discovery, the Rape-Axe device has not been able to be on the market due to lack of funding. They have a GO FUND ME and accept PayPal on their website. 

Please help get this device on the market and help victims of sexual assault and catch predators everywhere. 

a letter to parents

if your child flinches whenever you move, you’ve done something wrong.

if your child memorizes your work schedule and uses that as knowledge of when they can have a good day, you’ve done something wrong.

if your child is scared to tell you what’s wrong, you’ve done something wrong.

if your child gets in trouble a lot for your attention, you’ve done something wrong.

if their grades start to slip, don’t yell at or degrade them, help them.

if you’re child comes out as LGBTQ+, support them, DO NOT kick them out, harass them, ignore what they said, or tell them that they’re wrong, no matter what.

support your child, do your fucking job and be a good fucking parent because that’s what your child needs. they don’t need an asshole who degrades them or ignores them.

I want a story about a king whose son is prophesied to kill him so the king is like “whatever what am I supposed to do, kill my own kid wtf is wrong with you” so he just raises him as normal, doesn’t even tell him about the prophecy, and instead of some convoluted twist of events that leads to the king’s murder the son grows up and when the king is very old and dying and in excruciating pain the kid is just like alright I'mma put him out of his misery.

Know their names and their stories.

SPECTRA, an LGBTQIA app is live on Kickstarter!

SPECTRA, an LGBTQIA app is finally live on Kickstarter! But what is SPECTRA, exactly? SPECTRA is an app designed by members of the LGBTQIA community for the LGBTQIA community. At SPECTRA, we believe that our community deserves a Digital Home, a welcoming space to meet our needs in a non-judgmental environment. We exist to make you stronger. We are a network of businesses and people who get it.

So, what’s our mission? We plan to become an online resource center for our community, a space where your voice will not only be heard but where your voice will also help the members of our great family feel safe anywhere in the world. Here’s what we have in mind!

A Complete Resource Center For LGBTQIA People

SPECTRA is a movement emerging from a digital platform built for iOS, Android and the web. It is a network of LGBTQIA people and their allies fighting for a more inclusive future.

Because there are so many in our community that feel insecure and unsafe in unknown spaces. Because we found out that more than 70% of LGBTQIA youth said they felt more comfortable being themselves online than in the real world. Because SPECTRA is an opportunity to use the power we have online to rally our community together and find the safe spaces for us in the real world.

SPECTRA is an excellent opportunity to create an online resource center for the LGBTQIA community, where you will be able to know where to go, where to work and even where to live. SPECTRA has been created by a union of inclusive people, employers, and places. It is a movement towards social equality and will be available on iOS, Android and the web. Because we believe in a future where everyone can feel safe in the world. We invite everyone to get involved, especially allies!

How Will That Work?

We have designed three unique features to help you find the best friendly places to have fun:

Rainbow Ratings

SPECTRA Rewards

Rainbow Maps

The rainbow ratings will work similarly to YELP but for the LGBTQIA community! SPECTRA members will be able to rate businesses on how welcoming they are. These ratings will help other members of our community avoid spaces where they could feel unsafe, and encourage businesses where they are welcomed. The ratings are calculated based on actual interactions through user-generated reviews. SPECTRA is a global app, which makes it easy to find affirming businesses all over the world.

You will be able to avoid places with low inclusion ratings. Plus, in the near future, you will be able to look for window stickers on businesses with a HIGH inclusion rating!

As for the rainbow map, we plan for it to be a resource that makes it easy for you to plan a journey. You will be able to take safe routes around your city and anywhere in the world! Every SPECTRA object is pinned to the map for your convenience. You will also be able to filter businesses by several criteria such as:

Exclusive deals

Health & Wellness

Safe Spaces

Queer Spaces

Gender neutral bathrooms

Hotels & Hostels

Crossdresser Meet-Ups

Virtual businesses

LGBTQIA and POC owned

Clothing Swaps

Private Events

Pride Events

Finally, with SPECTRA rewards, you will be able to earn rewards at inclusive businesses and gain access to exclusive deals that are only available within SPECTRA Rewards! You can earn points as you shop with our partners and inclusive businesses all over the world!

There are so many more things we have in mind for SPECTRA and we need your help to make it happen!

We Are 80% Complete!

Due to some complications and homophobic forces in the world, we had to hide for the longest time that we were building an LGBTQIA portal. This secrecy resulted in extra expenses and longer development. SPECTRA was started in summer of 2017.

We are finally coming out and need your support to complete the development and refine, test and release SPECTRA in BETA.

Our Kickstarter campaign went online on February 19 2019, and our goal pledges is at only 10,000. Thanks to our several backers we are a little over 10% of our goal! We ask for your help to bring our project to fruition and we have planned several tiers and rewards for those who believe in us!

We invite everyone on Tumblr to Signal Boost us and help us reach our goal! Reblog, like, share it with your friends! It might seem like a small gest, but SPECTRA will be a revolution for LGBTQIA inclusion!

Be part of our future today!

LINKS:

Our Website: https://www.joinspectra.com/

Our Kickstarter: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/gospectra/digital-platform-to-build-safer-world-for-the-lgbt?ref=29fd7v

Our Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JoinSpectra/

Heading to Pillowfort, and I’m Offering Keys

Hi, you may or may not know me. I go by Tyramir, and I’m an author. Mostly I write fanfic, but I have also published a book at some point. (Yes, that was a subtle plug – don’t feel obligated to click the links, they’re there to justify to myself why I’m doing this so I can say this wasn’t 100% altruistic because I’m a crusty old troll)

So, recently, Tumblr has made something of an announcement regarding what kind of content they will and will not host in the future. And you know what, that’s okay. It’s their site. They can do what they want. Just like I’m free to say, “Hey, @staff, go fuck yourselves with some sandpaper, you masochistic fucks.”

Ah, that felt good. You know what else feels good? Moving to Pillowfort. I’m in no way associated with them, beyond that I am now a user. I just bought a key. More than one, actually. I bought a whackload of them. I am not rich. See: author. Very poor profession if you’re not ultra-successful. However, what I am is angry, and disappointed with the direction this site is taking. 

This site is home for the marginalised, for the outcasts, for the misfits. It’s also the home for a lot of fellow artists, like myself. Ones that might not have a little extra cash in their wallets. So, as a Christmas gift (and as a way of sharing that link up above advertising my book, see self, you’re not totally altruistic), I’m making this offer.

Reblog and like this post. You don’t have to follow me. You don’t have to buy my book. You don’t have to tell anyone it exists. You don’t even have to click that link. Just like and reblog. Anyone who likes it will get one entry for drawing for a key. Anyone who reblogs it will get one. Anyone who does both will get two. And on December 17th, the Day of Ignominy, I will draw ten names, and I will gift ten keys. I’ll even wear a Willy Wonka hat while I do. You won’t be able to see it, but the spirit will be there.

If you want to get the word out, but don’t want to get an entry (say you already have a Pillowfort account), just reblog and tag the post with “no entry,” or some variation thereof. I’ll exclude you from the draw, but thank you (in my mind, I’m not gonna actually thank people, but that requires effort, yo) for helping others learn about this opportunity.

TL;DR: Bald author wants to use very little cash he has to give people Pillowfort accounts. Just like and reblog for entries. Also, I hope you are feasted upon by a swarm of angry weasels, @staff.

**EDITED TO INCLUDE** A kind soul who has stated their desire to remain anonymous has volunteered an additional five keys to the raffle! We are now up to fifteen keys.