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This pride month, support AroAllos without making assumptions about our sex lives!

No more "you aren’t sluts/whores"; because what about those of us who are?

No more "yes, get some!" Because what about those of us who don’t want to?

Support AroAllo without assuming if and how much and what kinds of sex we have, and especially without assigning moral value to that assumption.

Support AroAllos who are sluts and whores, support AroAllos who have a lot of casual sex, and support AroAllos who don’t like sex, who don’t have sex at all, support AroAllos who only have sex in committed relationships, whether those are romantic, (queer-)platonic, sexual or something else entirely, and AroAllos who only have sex with their friends, and support every AroAllo in-between.

Just support all AroAllos. No caveats, no "buts" and "ifs", nothing. Support and include AroAllos.

me when i see one of the most shipped characters in the fandom

Do that unhinged thing. Make Jim Morrison proud.

The Doors. 1968

Aro culture is that you struck with the mindset of 'l'm too young to date" while everyone else in your life date has crush go on a date talking about romantic future with their partner but once you realize that if you grow into adulthood you can't use that excuse anymore and it scary

(Based off my experience as a teenager 🧍)

honestly, a few things work for a surprisingly long time, though your mileage might vary:

I'm too young to date

I'm focusing on my studies / on school

I'm focusing on my work

I'm not looking hard, but if it's meant to be, that won't matter.

I don't know how to use Tumblr but this is the only place I can find alloaro content that (most of the time) isn't detailed by aces

PLAY IT SAFE

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Happy aro week fellas 💚🤍🩶🖤

Aroallo Flag Colorpicked from “The Fool” Tarot Card

Aromantics who want a relationship are Valid

Aromantics who DON'T want a relationship are a Valid

Aromantics who hope to feel romantic attraction are Valid

Aromantics who feel a LITTLE romantic attraction are Valid

Aromantics who are romance repulsed are Valid.

Aromantics that enjoy sex are Valid

Aromantics who "Sleep around" are Valid

Aromantics who want kids are Valid

Aroaces are Valid

Allosexual Aromantics are Valid

Queer Aromantics are Valid

Hetro Aromantics are Valid

AROMANTICS ARE FUCKING VALID

If you, when you ask for advise on how to write AroAllo characters, use wording that implies you believe non-romantic sexual relationships are "strange" or would make a character appear "selfish" or "less human" or anything like that, or if you say that non-romantic sexual relationships will be read as the participants "using each others bodies" without caring for one another, even if you specify that you don't actually believe that and this is what readers would think, you do have some aro-phobic and amatonormative sentiments you need to get rid off first.

Because sure, some, perhaps even a lot, of your potential readers will make those assumptions. But there's quite literally nothing you can do about other people's aro-phobia and internalized amatonormativity (especially not to the level necessary, and in a fiction book).

But as the author, you do have to ask yourself if your representation should be for the actually aromantic people who'll read your book for the representation of them, or for alloromantic people who'll need every little detail spoon-fed and then still throw a tantrum because they can't relate to an aromantic character [no, not every alloro is like this. I get that you're one off the good ones. Now continue.]

The best way to make a non-romantic sexual relationship read as natural and normal is to just write it that way. Don't dwell on it longer than you would on other types of relationships! Don't make it seem like it's something weird or abnormal that needs to be discussed over fifty pages before the plot can continue. You don't have to do anything overly complicated and make your aromantic character jump through hoops to be understood; you can just have a character refer to their sexual partner as such, or call their relationship a sexual relationship (or "fuckbuddies" and similar terms if your characters are more crude), have them call themselves aromantic, and if it fits your plot you could have a conversation between the partners in a sexual relationship to define their relationship and feelings for one another just as you would for characters in any other type of relationship, and that's it. That's all you have to do. Congrats. You wrote an allosexual aromantic character in a sexual relationship.

Of course, there can be and often is a lot more to AlloAro representation, but a lot of you all are absolutely over-complicating the issue and making it much harder on yourself to create something. Especially if it's a side-character, it's absolutely alright to keep it simple! I promise you, as long as you treat your aromantic character normally and don't other them, and listen to aromantic people when they talk about their experiences and how they want to be represented, there really isn't much you can do so horribly wrong that we'll hunt you for sport or whatever horror-imaginations you have when you think about writing the "wrong" type of aromantic character.

Yes, a bunch of alloromantic readers won't like whatever you write about aromanticism. They'll say it feels "forced" and "unnatural", but that is on them. Because a lot of people simply believe aromantic people to be "unnatural", and there is nothing you can do to change their mind. No representation will be "good enough" to make everyone stop being aro-phobic.

Don't write your aromantic representation with aro-phobes in mind. Write it for your aromantic readers. They will thank you.

Also, always remember that all aros are different, and you can't possibly represent everyone in just one or a few characters, and you shouldn't be (and aren't) expected to. Know where your characters fall on the spectrum and how their aromanticism affects them, and write that, don't try to make them something all aromantics can "identify" with. That will only cause no aromantic person to be able to relate to them.

Other than that, really just write! Of course ask questions if you have them, but please stop using aro-phobic phrases such as above to ask them.

CP2077 OC ask game *:･ﾟ✧⚔️🤖🔮

PERSONAL. 1. what is their full name? do they have any nicknames? what are they and why did they get them? 2. how old are they? how long have they been living on their own? 3. what are their astrology signs? sun/moon/rising. 4. what tarot card from the major arcana would you associate with them? 5. are they religious or spiritual in any way? 6. which of the four elements would you associate with them? 9. which of the nine alignments are they? (lawful good etc) 10. which of the myers-briggs personality types are they? 11. do they have any cyberware? is it cosmetic or is it weaponry/armor? 12. what is their occupation? 13. if you were to choose a class for them, what would it be? 14. what is their weapon of choice? 15. what is their preferred vehicle or transportation of choice? 16. how would you describe their style? 17. are they a early riser or a night owl? 18. share three songs you associate with them. 

NIGHT CITY. 19. is your character from night city? if no, where were they born? what brought them to night city? if yes, what area of the city did they grow up? 20. where do they currently live? describe their home.  21. do they have any favorite spots around NC? 22. do they like to cook for themselves, or eat out? do they prefer restaurants or street food? and how do they feel about vending machine food? 23. do they prefer the city or the badlands? 24. what gang/faction/corporation do they align with, if any? 25. which radio station(s) is their favorite? 26. if they do merc work, do they have one dedicated fixer? if so, who? 27. have they ever had run ins with the badges? 28. are they quick to help a stranger in need or do they prefer to stay out of other peoples business? 29. do they have any favorite celebrities that frequent or live in NC? how would they feel meeting them?

RELATIONSHIPS. 30. is your friend a social butterfly or more of a loner? 31. who are their closest chooms in NC? 32. do they have anyone they would consider family? 33. what is/was their relationship like with their parents?  34. do they have siblings? 35. how would you describe their relationship with their family? 36. who is their biggest enemy? 37. tell a short story about your character with their best choom. 38. do they have a love interest? if so, who? 39. are they in a committed relationship or do they date around? 40. has your character ever been in love? if so, with who? 41. do they believe in soulmates? 42. do they believe in love at first sight? 43. describe their ideal date. 44. would your character ever get married? 45. what was your characters first impression of their partner(s)? 46. are they open about their relationship or low key? how would other people feel about them together? 47. share a headcanon about your character and their partner(s). 48. share three songs you associate with your character and their partner(s).

NSFW.  49. name three of your characters biggest turn ons. 50. name three of your characters biggest kinks. 51. do they like having multiple partners or do they prefer monogamy?  52. do they watch porn or braindances? 53. would your character ever make an explicit braindance? 54. do they have any cybernetic enhancements that serve sexual purposes? 55. do they have a preference for ‘ganic bodies or do they like modifications? 56. name three of your characters biggest turn offs. 57. what is their ultimate fantasy? or ““secret”“ kink? 58. would they ever use any substances like aphrodisiacs, alcohol or drugs during sex? 59. what is their wildest sexual experience? 60. are they more submissive or dominant? 61. does your character need to have an intimate relationship with someone to have sex? or do they prefer being unattached?  62. has your character ever participated in group sex? 63. do they like to sext or play over the holo? 64. has your character ever ghosted someone after a sexual encounter? 65. how would they react if they were ghosted by someone they like after a sexual encounter? 66. do they prefer kink oriented sex or spontaneous passionate sex? 67. how do they get down on their own? quick and easy or do they have to romance themselves a little? 68. in what outfit do they feel sexiest? how do they dress to impress? 69. do they like having music on while they have sex? share three songs they’d play while getting down.