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i'm odypen-dent on them for happiness i fear

daily affirmations:

i am kind

i am in control of my emotions

it does not bother me when someone is in the kitchen while i was planning to be in there alone

everyone in the house has the right to be in the kitchen

i am kind and in control of my emotions even when someone is in the kitchen while i was planning to be in there alone

*inhale*

*exhale*

“I could have sworn that old man had a granddaughter…”

My farmer Rey unintentionally gaslighting Mayor Lewis upon first meeting LMAO

BKDK raptors experience a moment of brief reality before they return to the Potato World.

BNHA x SDV - Part. 1/??

Something is happening in Stardew Valley. Someone new just moved in. 👀

Fuck it, I didn't want to make a post on this but it's bugging the hell out of me so let's exorcize the thought.

Lilo and Stitch is an extremely good children's movie. I've been working at a daycare for over five years now, and out of all the children's movies I've shown to an auidence of twenty or so school-age kids (i.e. between the ages of 5 and 12), the only movie that's held their attention as well as Lilo and Stitch is The Emperor's New Groove, and the only one that's held it better is An American Tail. Of those three, Lilo and Stitch has won the vote of "what movie we will watch" the most. It not only entertains kids, but emotionally captivates them from start to finish, because it very thoroughly understands how to engage children on their level. It's a smart, tightly written children's movie.

The feat of story-telling genius it pulls of lies in its ability to reach both where children's imaginations want to go and where their lived real-world experiences lie - most children's movies focus on one or the other, but Lilo and Stitch dives deep into both. On the imagination side, there's Stitch's whole plotline of being a little alien monster being chased by other weirdo aliens onto earth because they want to stop him from running amok and causing havoc (which, of course, happens anyway in fun cartoony comedy/action spectacle). On the real-world side, you have Lilo's plotline of being a troubled little girl who has an abundance of very real problems that, like an actual child, she struggles to comprehend and deal with, as well as the many adults in her life that care about her to some degree but all struggle to fully understand her. Kids want to be Stitch and run amok and cause cartoony havoc. Kids, even the least-troubled kids, relate to Lilo, because all of them have been in a similar situation as her at least once in their lives.

Balancing these two very different stories, with very different tones and scopes to their respective conflicts, is a hard writing task, but Lilo and Stitch manages to do it in a way that seems effortless with one very powerful trick. The two plots are direct mirrors to each other, complete with the characters involved in each having foils in the respective plot. To break it down:

Stitch, the wild and destructive alien gremlin who everyone has labeled as a crime against existence, is Lilo, the troubled young girl who's viewed as a "problem child" by all the adults in her life. In both plotlines, Stitch and Lilo are facing the threat of being "taken away" from the life they know because they act out, and in both plotlines, we see that this is an unfathomably cruel thing to do to them and will not actually solve the problems they have.

Dr. Jumbaa, the mad scientist who made Stitch because making monsters is what mad scientists do, and who had no intentions of ever being nurturing or parental to anything or anyone in his life, is Nani, Lilo's older sister whose parents died when she was young and now is forced to act as a parental substitute despite not being mentally or emotionally prepared for that responsibility yet. Both Dr. Jumbaa and Nani are trying to get their respective wild children in line with what society wants them to be, and both are struggling hard with it because they in turn have a lot of growing to do before they can actually accomplish that.

Pleakley, the nebbish alien bureaucrat who ends up being assigned to help Dr. Jumbaa despite being mostly uninvolved in creating the whole Stitch situation, is David, the nice but mostly ineffectual guy who's crushing on Nani and wants to help her but doesn't really have much he can provide except emotional support. Ultimately Pleakley and David prove that said emotional support is a lot more helpful than it seems on the surface, as they give Jumbaa and Nani respectively a lot of the pushes they need to become better in their parental roles.

The Grand Councilwoman, who runs the society of aliens that is trying to banish Stitch forever for his crime of existing, is Cobra Bubbles, the Child Protective Services agent who is in charge of deciding whether or not Lilo needs to be taken away from her home forever for, ostensibly, her own good. Both are well-intentioned and stern, with a desire to follow the rules of society and do what procedure says is the most humane thing to do in this situation, but both lack the understanding of Stitch/Lilo's situation to actually help until the end of the movie.

Finally, we have Captain Gantu, the enforcer of the Galactic Council who is a mean, aggressive, sadistic brute but is viewed as a "good guy" by society because he plays by its rules (well, when he knows can't get away with breaking them, anyway), who is the counterpart of Myrtle, the mean, aggressive, sadistic schoolyard bully who is viewed as a "good kid" by other adults because she plays by the rules they established (well, when she knows she can't get away with breaking them, anyway). Both Gantu and Myrtle are, in truth, much nastier in temperament than Stitch and Lilo, but are better at hiding it in front of others and so get away with it, and often make Stitch and Lilo look worse in the eyes of others by provoking them to violence and then playing the victim about it - in fact, both even have the same line, "Does this look infected to you?", which they say after goading their respective wild-child victims into biting them.

The symmetry of these two plotlines allows them to actually feed into each other and build each other up instead of fighting each other for screentime. The fantastical nature of Stitch's plot adds whimsy to the far more realistic problems that Lilo faces so they don't get too heavy for the children in the audience, while the very real struggles of Lilo in her plotline bleed over into Stitch's plot and make both very emotionally poignant. When both plotlines hit their shared climax, they reach children on a emotional level few other movies can match - the terror of Lilo being taken away from her family, and the emotional complexity of that problem (Cobra Bubbles pointing to Lilo's ruined house and shouting at Nani, "IS THIS WHAT LILO NEEDS?" is so starkly real and heart-breaking), is matched and echoed in the visual splendor and mania of the spectacular no-way-this-is-going-to-work chase scene where Stitch, Nani, Jumbaa, and Pleakley all team up to rescue Lilo from Gantu.

The arcs of the characters all more or less line up. Nani confronts her own failures to be a guardian and parent to Lilo and resolves to do better and learn from her mistakes. Jumbaa, who through most of the movie protests to be evil and uncaring, nonetheless comes to not only care for Pleakley, but more importantly for Stitch too, and ends up assuming the role he never wanted but nonetheless forced himself into from the start: he is Stitch's family. Hell, the moment that reveals this is really clever - Stitch goes out into the wilderness to try and re-enact a scene from a storybook of The Ugly Duckling, hoping, in a very childish way, that his family will show up and love him. Jumbaa arrives and, coldly but not particularly cruelly, tells Stitch that he has no family - that Stitch wasn't born, but created in a lab by Jumbaa himself. But in that moment Jumbaa is proving himself wrong - because Stitch's creator, his parent, DID show up, and did exactly what happens in the story by telling Stitch the truth of what he is. It can't be a surprise, then, that later in the movie Jumbaa ends up deciding to side with Stitch, to help him save Lilo, and to stay on Earth with his child.

David and Pleakley go from being pushed away by Nani and Jumbaa respectively to essentially becoming their partners in the family. The Grand Councilwoman and Cobra Bubbles finally see how cruel their initial solution of isolating Stitch and Lilo from their family would be, and bend the rules they are supposed to enforce to protect and support this weird found family instead of breaking it apart. Gantu and Myrtle are recognized for the assholes they are and face comeuppance in the form of comedic slapstick pratfalls. And most importantly, Stitch and Lilo both get the emotional support and understanding they need to thrive and live happy lives as children should be allowed to do. It's like poetry, it rhymes.

It's a very precise, smartly written movie. It's a delicate balancing act of tone and emotions, with a very strong theme about the need for family and understanding that hits children in their hearts and imaginations. It's extremely well structured.

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So it'd be kind of colossally fucking stupid to remake it and start fucking around with the core structure of it, chopping out pieces and completely altering others, with no real purpose beyond "Well, the executives thought it might be better if we did this."

I never experienced the 'I feel broken' aroace moods, but rather the 'I am the only person on earth to be reasonable about sex and romance' and the 'Y'all are weak and should worship me like a god' kinda aroace moods.

So I consider myself highly gifted

The best way I can describe to an allo person how you feel about sex as a topic as a sex-repulsed or averse asexual is that it feels like a hype that never ends. As though Despicable Me came out and everyone around you was sending minion facebook memes to each other for years to come. The stores are full of minion themed products; they're in ads and your friends talk about them all the time. And deep in your heart you're like "I'm glad that they're able to enjoy something I personally don't like and am not interested in :3". But there is always this little voice in the back of your head that's like "If I have to see ONE MORE of these little yellow FUCKERS today then God help us all." You make an active choice to communicate only the former.

STARTING TOMORROW

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They are live streaming, but engagement is necessary for it to work. SHARE THIS WITH PEOPLE, RECORD THE STREAM, POST CLIPS OF IT THAT ARE FUNNY, if you can tune in, PLEASE DO!

This is something that has to be heard by as many people as possible. Put it on in the background! See if you can get other people to watch it! Do whatever you can do support those who are trying to be supported! Anything and everything helps!

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article I posted screenshots of here

Why the fuck does "womanizer" mean what it does, that shit sounds like the name of an instant sex change ray gun invented by some guy who has beef with a platypus.

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Me: *watering my plant*

Plant: oh yes mommy all over me yess

Me: what

Oblivious.

This is the worst feeling ever. 0/10 would not recommend.

I was on level 99, saw the latter, and it hit 2 AM and I passed out.

Stardew characters in meme format pt. 2

Part 1

I’m shadowbanned, please don’t let this flop 😭

THE DIFFERENCE I'm giggling

researching any famous male playwright is like. 1) early life 2) off-broadway success 3) notable works 4) awards & critical acclaim 5) alleged homosexuality

i love having the hubris to go 'sure i'll try that, how hard can it be' about every creative skill under the sun. jack of all trades master of shit fuck but who says you have to be a master??? maybe i want to sew a mediocre plushie and code a janky mod and write a bland song. im having fun. im in my lane. im learning and im thriving.

Ok, so I had a breakdown earlier and correlated the song "Not Sorry for Loving You" from EPIC to the situation that caused me to break down. You now get to read the resulting scenario that I thought up for the song about the situation I am currently in. Enjoy.

Imagine:

Calypso - but as a very physically affectionate demiromantic asexual person who thinks she finally found someone (Odysseus) that she genuinely really loves and wants to spend the rest of her life with.

Odysseus - an allosexual who really cares for and respects his asexual friend but is so focused on his own view of what a relationship has to be, he ruled out being with Calypso and never asked her what her expectations or wants for a relationship would be.

Song lyrics breakdown:

"Someone arrived today

They said they're taking you away

That you're not mine to save

And soon I won't get to see your face"

-Odysseus being in a relationship or looking for a relationship that is pulling him away from Calypso.

"You're unlike anyone I have ever known

'Cause you're all I've ever known"

-This is the first person Calypso has ever truly been in love with as a demiromantic that really needs a personal connection to develop romantic feelings.

"And if I pushed you

Or if I came on too strong

Or if I ambushed you"

-Being a physically affectionate person, Calypso was using the fact that Odysseus didn't think of certain actions as being romantic coming from her (cuddling, hand holding, lunch dates, ect.) for her own benefit. It became a one-sided relationship where Odysseus didn't realize it, but what Calypso was doing under the guise of friendship was way more romantically intentioned than she let on.

"For that, I'll say I was wrong"

-She understands that it can be really shitty to use other people's lack of compression to gain your own satisfaction, especially when it gets to the point of lying about your own wants to keep up your one-sided relationship's status quo.

"And if you hate me

Then I am sorry my love's too much for you"

-The idea that Odysseus would be betrayed or feel used or even just remorseful for not understanding what Calypso is doing/feeling. The kind of love she feels is much stronger than he can deal with, especially finding out suddenly.

"But I'm not sorry for loving you"

-More or less the same meaning as the original song. She doesn't care that she used him. She feels justified in her actions even. She loves him, and it's not her fault that he never asked or clarified anything about her feelings. In her mind, it isn’t a big deal. In her mind, she is in the right because it can't be bad to 'just' love someone.

"Let me speak

I spent my whole life here

Was cast away when I was young

Alone for a hundred years

I had no friends but the sky and sun"

-Growing up not experiencing sexual or romantic attraction the same way that everyone around you seems to is pretty isolating. You can feel broken or crazy and not understand what is wrong with you. You don't want to connect with people who won't be able to understand you for fear of them expecting something of you that you can't provide.

"So when you washed ashore

I thought for sure that you were my dream come true

I thought I knew"

-Odysseus treats Calypso as if there is nothing wrong with her. Makes her feel normal. Specifically, he is someone who isn't afraid to talk about their sexuality. Jokingly flirts with her the way he does with everyone else. He is respectful and doesn't try pressuring her into a relationship or anything, but isn't afraid to talk about relationships in a way that doesn't make her feel weird for not feeling the same. She falls in love with him because of this and even believes he might be someone willing to date her on her own terms.

"I'm angry and tired and restless and sad

I'm stuck in the moments I swore that we had

I wish you would chase me

Or try to embrace me"

-She feels led on. She feels like this person came into her life, did all of the right things to get her attached, just to never have really cared. She wonders how she could ever have gotten this attached if it wasn't intentional on his part? She can think back on things that he has done for her that no one else has ever done. Things he has remembered about her that no one ever cared about. She wants all of that to mean more than friendship.

"For once, I wish you would lie and say

I love you

You do?

But not in the way that you want me to"

-He does genuinely care about her, but platonically. His wants and needs for a relationship are fundamentally different from hers, and he doesn't think they would work out. But she won't let go of that hope that he will change his standards for her. She doesn't want to change her belief that he is the only one for her.

"I hate that I fell in love with you

Why did I fall in love with you?

What do I do with this love for you?

How am I supposed to get over you?

Why in the world won't you love me too?"

-Once again, this is her first time falling in love, and she fell HARD. It feels impossible to ever love anyone this much again, especially with how long it took her to get to this point with Odysseus. She would rather have never loved anyone and feel incapable of love than have to find someone else who also has similar relationship wants as she does. It would just be easier if things with him just worked themselves out.

Anyway, this isn't exactly my experience, but it is heavily influenced by it. I'm asexual biromantic, and I have had feelings for people before but never as strong as the massive crush I have on my best friend rn. I finally found someone I could see spending the rest if my life with, but she doesn't seem to thing of me as a possible partner because 'I'm asexual and that must mean I don't ever want to date anyone'. That's obviously not true, but she has never seen me in a real relationship, and it has never come up in conversation before what kind or relationship I would want to be in. We are both going through massive transitional stages in our lives currently, so it's not like I really want to have those conversations and make things complicated, but I feel bad for not telling her. I'm a physically affectionate person with most of my friends, especially with her, but I'm starting to feel weird about it when I'm doing it because I want to be closer with her and she might only be reciprocating because we are friends. I don't know what to think anymore, so if you have any thoughts, feel free to let me know. I just thought this was a fun interpretation of a song that I think sounds really pretty. Thanks for reading my rant :)

You ever hear that old chestnut about how most people neglect the part of the story of Icarus where he also had to avoid flying too low, lest the spray of the sea soak his feathers and cause him to fall and drown? You ever think about how different the world would be if Icarus died that way instead? If the idiom was to Fly To Close To The Sea? A warning against playing it far too safe, about not stretching your wings and soaring properly? You ever think about how Icarus died because he was happy?

Yes, Mr. AP Psychology Teacher, I do know what the Yerkes-Dodson law is. No, Mr. AP Psychology Teacher, I do not want to explain where I learned that.

You will not die at the hands of quicksand. Ask me how I know this

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I like how the witch in Stardew Valley doesn't even curse your chickens or curse your eggs or anything, she just puts an extra egg in there and it is an Evil Egg but the Evil Chicken that results is like. totally chill

Tfw you're too brainrotted but your friend is trying to vent