Becoming #ThatGirl

do you have any advice on how to level up like your physical appearance and mentality? like i struggle with discipline and codependency issues and I hate it but when i try and change i fall back into my bullshit real quick

Becoming #ThatGirl

The above quote is from Saweetie. First and foremost, your energy will speak before your looks do.

1. Inner Work

Be sure to work on mindfulness from the inside. I always recommend that my followers look into how to be more mindful and spiritual.

-> Do a 15 or 30 minute yoga session. Look forward to learning poses everyday.

-> Journaling — a diary, gratitude journal, prayer journal, etc will help you think more about your goals, release balled up emotions, and set your intentions. Always refer to your journal first before a person. It will help you analyze your thought process.

- Digital: Day One, Google Docs

- Buy a physical notebook.

- Best pens: Pilot 0.38 and 0.7

- Best highlighters: Zebra Mildliners

-> Check in with your emotions daily.

- Mood trackers: Daylio, eMoods

-> Be grateful. List 5 things you are grateful for

-> Eat mindfully — cleaner foods and not just junk. Drink your body weight in water.

- Cleaner eating: no soda (if you must drink something drink ginger ale.), no dairy (cheese occasionally. I never drink real milk...), drink more teas and more smoothies. Eat oatmeal. Rice, fish, salad.

- Buy a reusable water bottle, or a mason jar with a lid from Amazon and refill it. This way you will drink your water.

- Take your multivitamins.

-> Have a list of affirmations you say daily: “I am beautiful, I am blessed, I am blossoming.”

-> Meditation to relieve your anxieties. It will clear your mind completely and leave you refreshed. Download Headspace app!!

-> Exercise and watch your mental health improve.

-> Watch less mindless TV. Read books or listen on Audible.

-> Have a steady routine. This is how you create discipline. Always have a morning routine and night routine. You must have good hygiene. Have a structured schedule so that you’re always in order.

-> Sleeping at least 8 hours, wake up early and start your day. If you have a decent bedtime routine that relaxes you you will be able to do this. Meditate, listen to chill or binaural beats, and avoid naps.

2. Outer Appearance

After you have envisioned and began to achieve what you want your inner self to look like, it is time to think about your outer self.

-> What does #she look like?

- For example: A high value girl will be put together — impeccable fashion sense, hygienic, and glowing radiantly.

- What is the style that you have always dreamed of having? What is your signature fashion sense? What is your It Girl Aesthetic? Is it traditional feminine, old Hollywood, 00s glam, tomboy girly? A mix of everything???

- Invest in high quality pajamas. I notice that when I have my silk robe on I transform into a baddie and I feel elegant at the same time.

- Wear clothes that fit to your body.

- Have signature jewelry, a signature bag, and a signature perfume scent. Make it fun.

-> What are the things #she does to upkeep her look?

- Teeth Whitening: Crest 3D whitestrips, toothpaste, and mouthwash. Flossing always!

- Nails: Always upkeep your toes and nails, at least have them filed/shaped and coated with oil. If you decide to paint them: Sally Hansen Gel Polish, preferably white on the toes because it is classic and goes with everything. white, Tiffany blue, baby pink, red are all flattering colors.

- Makeup: Light Foundation, blush, brows, lashes, lipgloss is actually enough, less can always be more. If you decide to wear heavy makeup be sure to set it with setting spray, Urban Decay or NYX.

- Skin: Have a skincare routine. Face wash -> toner -> serum -> moisturizer -> SPF* morning. Exfoliate twice a week. Aztec clay mask twice a week. Find products that work for your skin.

- Tree hut exfoliating scrub before shower. Lip scrub before lipstick. Burt’s Bees chapstick is the best and Aquaphor is super moisturizing for skin as well. Dr. Teals bath salts for a relaxing bath.

- Moisturize your body with cocoa or shea butter then oil after showers.

- Hair: Castor oil for eyelashes, eyebrows, hair. It’s a god send

3. Mindset & Overall Improvement

-> Grow your confidence. Know that you are a one of a kind individual and nobody can be like you. Affirm yourself... start saying things like, “I’m a living angel.” / “There’s only one me and I’m the baddest.” / “I’m a dream girl.”

It’s not overzealous, it’s confident. Trick your mind into thinking this and it will be internalized the same way you internalize negativity.

-> Maintain strict boundaries with yourself and others. Don’t tolerate less than what you deserve, and always do your best.

-> Develop your individuality. If you are putting someone on a pedestal, you will never glow up. Be independent and stop needing others approval for things, and learn how to rely on yourself first. Do more things on your own and fall in love with the new you. Buy yourself flowers, pamper yourself always.

-> Deep cleanse your life. Delete old contacts. Clean your space always and keep it appealing. Donate clothes you’re not going to wear. Delete old photos that do not make you happy. Focus more on yourself, and disconnect from social media. Always block schedule your apps. 20 mins per day on the ones that drain you the most.

-> To create more discipline, create goals worth fighting for. Create goals you look forward to at the end of the day. Look forward to the new life you’re going to have. Be gentle with yourself while also having the maturity to check yourself when you’re lacking. Don’t just look at the end result, look at where you are now. Appreciate the now, anticipate the future. Don’t just wait to be motivated, just start.

-> Always remind yourself that being human takes failures...ups and downs, but you will always come out on the winning side because you will be working towards flourishing and blossoming into a high value, high maintenance baddie.

You got this! ❤️