It’s Hard To Explain Such A Complicated Matter In A Short Comic, So Please Forgive Me For Not Diving

i have to tell you something that will lower your entire opinion of me

pink in the night

i take issue with the notion that anything a bisexual woman does (including eg how she dresses or acts) must necessarily be done at least partially for men, and definitely with men in mind. 

this pretty obviously robs bi women of agency, maturity, and autonomy, but it’s particularly insidious when juxtaposed to certain facts about womanhood that are immediately accepted by most if not all of the same people. it’s pretty common knowledge that as a woman, there isn’t a goddamn fucking thing you can do to get men to leave you alone. there *is no way* to reliably & predictably avoid male attention. it just doesn’t exist. 

so why must bi women necessarily be doing *anything* we do in order to attract male attention? we already have male attention (both “positive” and negative) whether we like it or not. we do not need to dress, act, or exist with men in mind in order to get it.

this is also an assumption that would only ever be imposed on a woman. because even cishet, homophobic men are exempted from the notion that anything they do is done with women in mind. they can build their entire personalities and lives around what they think will get women to fuck them, and they are still ALWAYS placed at the top of the imaginary* power dynamic, always given agency, and always seen as being in possession of the approval which women must always seek. 

the idea that bi women are incapable of understanding what it’s like to navigate the world with no regard to men or what men like is frankly insulting. not only are we capable of understanding it (lol), but many of us do exactly that, 24/7, at all times.

I rly can’t help but wonder what the fuck this enforces if not for the acutely damaging stereotype of bi women being immature, oblivious, and incapable of autonomy, and the notion that women must change themselves in order to attract men, while men learn to embrace who they are.

*imaginary doesn’t mean without real-word consequences

“I’m not really mentally ill, I’m just faking this.” - A mentally ill proverb

i dont understand the stickbug thing at all but im glad everyone is having a good time with it

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